Music Monday: Hearing Your Daughter For The First Time… Again

By Jim Davis

Next year, it will be twenty years since the release of the album “Cracked Rear View” by Hootie and The Blowfish.

TWENTY!  (Feeling old, yet?)

There are people who do not know who “Hootie” is.  Many of these are the very same people that own and sing along with Darius Rucker albums.


That album is cemented in my teenage brain as much as any other.  “Vitalogy” by Pearl Jam, “Dookie” by Greenday, and Metallica’sBlack Album” also spring to mind, but “Cracked Rear View” probably got the most spins in my CD players and Discmans.

You laugh, but that was the bomb.  That album was the bomb-dot-com.

I look back on it and remember skipping over the very songs that catapulted it into one of the best selling records of all time.  “Hold My Hand,” “Let Her Cry,” and “Only Wanna Be With You.”  I probably skipped those songs as many times as I listened to them.


That is not to take away from what was a VERY good album from start to finish…  and there are still tracks that I pull out TODAY and sing along to.  “Hannah Jane” is one of the best opening tracks I have ever heard (and I still don’t even know what it’s about).


But, as I was singing “Time” this past week at church, it got me thinking about the way we skip the songs that first captured our ears…  The ones that we USED to play FIRST.

They eventually wear thin.  We either let those songs play through, barely even noticing they are on, or grow irritated with them.  Sometimes we just get to the point where we find ways to avoid them altogether.

Pastor Brady Nemmers was asking us “What are you doing with your time?”  “Who are you spending it with?”  And I started thinking about my little girl, Harper.

The very things that first caught my heart and made it jump out of my chest, and the moments that could make me laugh out loud as she began to test her limits, to experiment with her abilities, and string words together…  those things had started to become like tired tracks from my favorite album.

Sometimes I forget that these cherished moments are even happening.  They have become so “normal” that my attention is focused elsewhere.  It’s like I have tuned out her little darling voice because it is so frequently playing on repeat in my Discman.

Nevermind, (Nirvana pun?) that it’s my favorite album ever…  Some tracks just stop registering.

Sometimes I even anticipate them coming and try to skip them.  I start to change the way I parent in hopes of skipping some tracks with Harper.

But you know what?  As I sang “Time” and as Brady was teaching on what to do with our compounding minutes, I couldn’t help but think of my adorable daughter.  Like a great album and those Top 40 hits, there are reasons you fell in love with them.  They made your foot tap.  They made you smile.  They gave you perspective and could change your mood.

Sometimes we forget how much we loved those pieces of the whole before they became annoying.  But when you remember it as you first experienced it, and when you allow it to remind you of the first time…  it changes you

You start to hear the “music” as you once did.  You start to remember the first smile, the first laugh, the first steps, and even the first “no.”  The giggle becomes new and the parenting becomes fun again.

That message reminded me to pay attention; to hear things new again.

It reminded me to appreciate the things that first caught my ear…  to not let them grow old…  and to never skip the tracks that might be overplayed.  Each moment…  like each song…  is a chance to experience something for the first time again.

Harper has done all of those things for me.  She has me hooked.  In every imaginable way, Harper has her Daddy tuning in to see what’s next.

I still love those songs.

Thanks, Harper.

Thanks, Hootie.


Jim Davis & his daughter, Harper

Jim Davis & his daughter, Harper

Jim Davis is a contributing writer at Daddy Daughter Time featured weekly on “Music Mondays.”  After 20 years of trumpet playing and 7 years teaching middle and high school band, Jim now leads music at Keystone Community Church.  His posts aren’t always about specific songs or artists, but music has shaped who he is and he has long said that his daughter “makes his heart sing.” 


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